In Come Here To Me's first bonus episode, Figs and Teale break down what "a cycle" means in a relationship by exploring the emotional bonding needs every human is born with.Timestamps: 01:00 Small talk 03:48 Introduction to topic, "The Cycle" 05:46 "The problem is not the problem" 09:33 Surfer bro interlude: Just keep swimming 11:37 Couples fight because they love each other 12:38 "The solution itself is not the answer," Do you both feel loved? 14:48 Reptilian insults16:07 "If you really love me" conversations17:56 Attachment theory / emotional bonding23:42 "This is the one that I hope my emotional love needs will be met by."26:20 Honeymoon's end26:59 Feeling unloved prompts a negative reaction28:02 Reaction prompts negative response28:57 What is a cycle?33:09 ...Fiddling33:43 Let it feel like a relief: you're fighting because you love each other so much!38:47 The key isn't to avoid getting into a cycle, it's to get out of the cycle once it's started.Visit comeheretomepodcast.com for episode transcripts, social media links, and to subscribe to the mailing list.
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