In this powerful and personal episode, Cyndi sits down with her husband, retired law enforcement officer Bobby Doyle, to explore how he transformed from a "crusty curmudgeon" into a more open, connected, and grateful version of himself. Bobby shares how years of emotional armor and "just suck it up" culture took a toll on his mindset, marriage, and health — and how choosing vulnerability, gratitude, and emotional awareness changed everything. Together, they talk about practical ways officers and spouses can reconnect, build emotional courage, and rediscover joy both on and off the job. How emotional armor forms in law enforcement Why "toughing it out" leads to burnout and disconnection The mindset shift that changed Bobby's marriage and leadership Simple ways to rebuild emotional connection and gratitude How officers can mentor others with empathy and courage Cyndi Doyle, LPC-S, is a licensed professional counselor, author of Hold the Line: The Essential Guide to Protecting Your Law Enforcement Relationship, and founder of Code4Couples®, helping first responder couples strengthen connection and resilience in their relationships. 👉 Hold the Line: The Essential Guide to Protecting Your Law Enforcement Relationship 🎤 Book Cyndi to Speak Invite Cyndi to train or speak at your next event → https://code4couples.com/training/ 00:00 Intro — From Crusty Curmudgeon to Courage 02:00 What Emotional Armor Looks Like 06:00 "Toughen Up" Culture in Policing 10:00 Shifting from Old-School to Open-Hearted 14:00 Finding Gratitude and Joy Again 20:00 Emotional Armor vs Emotional Strength 25:00 Sunrise, Sunset, and Full Circle Moments 27:00 Final Thoughts and Takeaways  

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