The 5 Mistakes That Husbands Make‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:25‬ ‭NLT‬‬ “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her”
I Made Marriage All About Me
Philippians 2:3 NLT 'Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. '
I knew that I was getting this wrong because evern though I'd work on my stuff, whenever things felt out of control, I would assume control....Because i felt insecure....Everyting was about me. This response to my own insecurity never brings stability or leadership to the family, it brings control and manipulation.
Here is the truth. I can't actually know where I am getting it wrong, because I am inherently flawed and broken and selfish...I need to ask, and I need to listen to the the answers....from my wife.....and from other....
We also need to ask OTHERS...2. I Kept Our Issues In The DarkA healthy marriage is an open marriage - not shut
I thought that crisis would cure itself, that tensions would work themselves out, and that time would heal all wounds.... all of those ideas are completely unhelpful.
I have found that the key to moving our marriage forward is to be accountable to community.
Life Groups
Teams
Church
If these key elements are missing in your life, you are heading for trouble....but the GOOD NEWS is that these 3 things are easy to prioritise.3. I Thought I Could Make a Marriage Like I Bake a CakeA healthy marriage is one where I pay attention to it. Gettign stuck might sound like “you always do that when I try to speak to you about work” ... “You never acknowledge that it’s your fault we ended up here” or “you’re always saying that about me” etc .... when the TRUTH is those ALWAYS and NEVERS died 10 years ago. But I’m stuck. But things have changed, my wife has changed.... and I need to see my wife for the person she is TODAY!!
Let’s not burn each other, by not paying attention to the new peron that God is shaping, right in front of our eyes!4. I Chose To Endure My Marriage Instead Of Enjoy It.Psalms 16:11 'You will show me the path of life; In Your presence is fullness of joy; At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore.'
My commitment to work, is not always about work, it is often about hiding from family and particularly my responsibilities as a husband.
We are not at our best, in any area if our lives, when we can’t enjoy time with one another.
“Kids are for a season but your spouse is for a lifetime” We don’t want to get to the end of our season of parenting only to discover that we’ve fallen out of love with one another.
What is soemthing fun you could you do this week to enjoy some time together?5. I Made Jesus My Last Resort Not My First Call.Matthew 11:28-30 TPT '“Are you weary, carrying a heavy burden? Then come to me. I will refresh your life, for I am your oasis. Simply join your life with mine. Learn my ways and you’ll discover that I’m gentle, humble, easy to please. You will find refreshment and rest in me. For all that I require of you will be pleasant and easy to bear.”'
Who is your first call in a crisis?
Every relationship will undergo pressure, tension and stress.
The truth is that families, in all their varied forms, are actually God’s tool to bring heaven to earth.
Tonight Jesus wants heaven to be brought to bear in your life.
It doesn’t matter what your marriage / family looks like right now, Jesus wants to be invited into it, and when He is, He will begin to bring His forgiveness and His hope with Him.
Jesus, this is my decision
Today I say yes to you
You died on the cross
To pay the price for my sin.
I invite you to be my saviour.
Come into my life.
Forgive my sin.
Fill me with the power of your holy spirit.
Amen

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