Listen "The Art of Being Kind vs. Nice: Reducing Divorce Stress"
Episode Synopsis
Divorce throws your emotions into overdrive, with stress levels soaring as you navigate uncertainty and major life changes. But what if one powerful stress-reduction technique isn't about better coping mechanisms, but rather dismantling a fundamental belief most women carry? The distinction between being "nice" and being "kind" holds transformative power for women going through divorce. I’m going to walk you through the societal conditioning that pressures women to be nice—putting everyone else's comfort before our own, staying silent to avoid rocking the boat, enduring unacceptable behavior to avoid being labeled difficult—actually increases our stress and disconnects us from our intuition when we need it most. You’ll see how niceness keeps us small and stressed, while kindness—speaking our truth, setting boundaries, honoring our values—creates authentic connection and reduces anxiety. You’ll learn:Divorce creates immense stress due to uncertainty, worry, and emotional overwhelmWomen are conditioned in our patriarchal system to be nice over everything elseBeing nice means putting yourself last, forgetting yourself, and sometimes putting yourself in dangerNice behavior turns us into people-pleasers who don't advocate for our own needsBeing kind means being honest, using your voice, and setting clear boundariesKindness involves speaking up when things are uncomfortable or unacceptableStart with small steps to replace niceness with kindness in specific situationsAs you practice kindness over niceness, your stress levels will naturally decreaseBuilding courage to be kind helps align your brain, body, and intuitionThis practice helps reconnect you to your wholeness and integrity after divorceIf this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.For more information and full show notes go to:https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep210To download your FREE GUIDE: "7-Day Self Trust Reset" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here. If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.
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