15 | More About Parenting by Design (Not Default)

23/12/2025 49 min
15 | More About Parenting by Design (Not Default)

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🥊 Note: this talk is a continuation of the one-two punch we started about parenting in the previous episode 🥊
 
There are THREE phases of parenting…
And you’ve got to pivot your roles and goals at each milestone.
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Here’s why knowing the three phases is helpful…
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1️⃣ If you know which stage you’re in, you know the “role” to play as you parent
2️⃣ If you know what you want them to look like as they enter the next step, you can reverse engineer those traits and instill them in your child, using the current stage to prep them for the next
 
It’s important to understand—
➡️ which phase you’re kid is in
➡️ the primary “role” you need to play as a parent
➡️ the importance of recognizing what’s coming next (so you can use the current phase to prepare them for the next)
WHILE ALSO
➡️ being fully present in that phase and enjoying the season you’re in (even though, admittedly, each season brings it’s unique set of challenges)
 
In this episode we get practical about the THIRD phase (first two = previous episode).
And then we tackle this reality…
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It seems like there’s never enough time to do the things that need to be done…
… much less “go deep” in all of this parenting stuff and make sure the most important things happen.
(Yes, it’s easy to feel like a failure as a parent.)
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So…
What if we could capture significant moments each day as part of the parenting journey?
What if we created “positive triggers” that just opened up strategic times of opportunity to focus on life-changing moments— big and small?
And what if we acknowledge that we aren’t running a sprint… or even a marathon… but one of those ultra-marathon, triathlon, extreme-race things that just goes on and on… so the best approach is just to make incremental change, by capturing some of the small moments?
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You need to implement “the flow.”
Parenting becomes easier when you tap into the every day grind and add a dose of grace to strategic moments…
🛌 Bed time
⏰ Morning routine
🚌 Car pool
🍔 Meal times
 
In addition, you’ll learn about the possibilities that—
🧭 Directional gatherings
🔥 Experiences
⭐️ Adventures
— can unlock for you and your family when dropped in small doses.
Here’s the takeaway, rather than depending on the BIG moments and overlooking the small, lean into the small / everyday and supplement with the “big.”
 
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Links to you need to know about…
📺 The parenting mini course = www.BeRefreshed.org/MC 
📳 Schedule a 25-minute “zoom-type” Discovery Call with Randy = www.BeRefreshed.org/DC 
🔗 The grand parenting group (online) = https://www.berefreshed.org/GP 
👉 1:1 coaching info with Randy = www.BeRefreshed.org/PC 
 
Episodes which are great next steps from here =
✅ #8, about the “Three phases / three stages” of parenting = https://berefreshed.mykajabi.com/podcasts/be-refreshed/episodes/2149047725 
✅ #12, about “Tools” for each of the three stages of parenting = https://berefreshed.mykajabi.com/podcasts/be-refreshed/episodes/2149047730 
✅ #13, about “The Flow” = https://berefreshed.mykajabi.com/podcasts/be-refreshed/episodes/2149047731 
 
Links to Andy’s site referenced in this talk:
📣 Andy’s podcast = go to www.Jenkins.tv 
🦅 GY6 project = www.GY6.online