EP 30: The Grieving Child

16/11/2023 55 min

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We welcome Rachel Tegg from Child Bereavement UK. 16/11 is Child Bereavement Day and how you can help and support bereaved children. 
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00:00 Intro
02:00 Child Bereavement UK
03:10 Adult - Child experience 
06:08 Open conversations 
06:55 Emotions, not being heard
08:25 The sanitised world and protecting children 
09:53 Imagination fills the gap
11:11 Healthy processing 
12:50 spending time with the feelings 
13:23 Grief comes in waves 
15:00 Masking
16:03 Modelling behaviours 
17:30 We don’t talk about it 
18:40 Concept of death 
20:18 Euphemisms 
22:26 Explaining differences 
23:07 Reassuring the child 
23:55 Trusting 
24:10 Curveball Questions and Golden Rules 
26:40 Exaggerated fear 
28:44 Opportunities to understand
30:38 Ready for support
31:31 Expectations
32:18 Grief timelines 
33:44 How you grieve is normal 
34:28 Seeking to understand 
36:15 Support and control, that works for you
37:50 Pyramid and NICE guidelines 
39:38 What makes the difference 
40:14 First contact and you 
42:42 You are with peers 
43:15 Separation and complexity of grieving  
45:17 Challenges of grieving 
47:00 Living Loss and bereavement 
48:20 Point of bereavement
50:00 Shifting grief 
51:22 How to get support 
53:20 Summary