Perfectionism often looks like discipline, excellence, and “high standards”, especially for high-performing women. But underneath, it’s frequently a form of avoidance: a nervous system strategy designed to create certainty before safety. In this episode, Jennifer breaks down the difference between excellence and perfectionism, why perfectionism can feel responsible (even noble), and the hidden costs: stalled momentum, delayed visibility, and an identity that gets tethered to outcomes and approval. You’ll also hear a grounded reframe: pressure narrows behavior, while safety expands it. Meaning sustainable growth comes from psychological safety and self-compassion, not self-criticism. What You’ll Learn Why perfectionism isn’t “high quality work”—it’s often fear in a polished outfit The difference between excellence (craft + learning) and perfectionism (control + certainty) How perfectionism shows up as “almost ready,” endless refining, and quiet stalling Why perfectionism isn’t just mindset—it’s a nervous system strategy under perceived threat How psychological safety and self-compassion support sustainable performance A simple reframe: excellence is responsive; perfection is rigid Key Takeaways (Quick Scan) Perfectionism is the need for certainty before safety. Excellence is about craft; perfectionism is about control. Perfection creates paralysis; excellence creates momentum. Polishing can feel safer than publishing when your nervous system perceives evaluation as threat. You don’t have to keep earning your right to exist through performance. If this stirred something in you, Jennifer created a reflective tool called the Power Prompt Quartet A set of guided prompts to help you notice where perfection has been running the show and what wants to take its place.No pressure. just an invitation.  

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