Dr John Gray, the internationally famous American relationship expert is best known for his book Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus. Host Helen Lee is both delighted and most appreciative to be able to share the invaluable content he generously provided during a 1.5hr interview on his truths that would help people transform and thrive today.
Especially as John is someone who has repeatedly appeared on Oprah, The Dr Oz Show, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America and many other US programs. And Barbara Walters also hosted a 3hr special with him. He certainly shared a substantial amount of knowledge and wisdom during his conversation with Helen on spiritual, emotional, gender and relationship intelligence.
He has also been featured in Time, Forbes USA Today and People. In fact, USA Today even listed his book Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus as one of the top ten most influential books of the last quarter of a century. In hardcover, it was the #1 best-selling book of the 1990’s. Translated into about 45 languages in more than 100 countries, John’s book amazingly continues to be a best seller till today, with more than 15 million copies sold to date!
Furthermore, John has written more than 20 books in the meantime and the most recent is Beyond Mars & Venus: Relationship Skills for Our Complex Modern World. 
The most useful message that Helen thinks John shared in this conversation with her is that the more we change at this time, "the more we will suffer less”, as there will be great suffering in the years ahead. This is precisely why Helen created “Transform & Thrive”both as a podcast and membership club early this year, to support individuals and organisations worldwide to truly change and flourish, and help others to do the same.
This message was at the very end of the interview which you will find in Episode 21 This interview was divided into two episodes), along with the simple and powerful process he kindly gifted Helen and her listeners. This will be out next Monday, April 25th. Meanwhile, check out the great wealth of knowledge and wisdom John Gray pours out, right from the beginning in this episode.
 
KEY TAKEAWAYS
It is very clear to John that the world is going in the wrong direction because he can feel people's suffering which always comes about with wrong thinking or what Helen calls "misaligned thoughts". He knows, however, through his own experience, that growth comes from pain.
John talks about how social norms change. For instance, child discipline is now non violent and this has resulted in parents floundering to find a way to handle their children’s behaviour.
When the mother and father don’t love each other, children cannot love themselves, they can’t access the divine plan. They are confused about who they are and are easily offended by things, so now we have a culture that is offended by everything.
 
BEST MOMENTS
‘Whenever you’re in pain, when anybody is in pain, their thinking is in the wrong direction. And that’s what’s going on in the world, their thinking is in the wrong direction. So people are experiencing more pain and more addiction to avoid their pain.’ 
'Fulfilment of desire is always temporary but the journey of having a desire, the process of getting what you want without doubting yourself and doubting the process and demanding that you have that thing right now, otherwise you can't be happy, that's something we have control over.' 
'We all come from trauma, there is no question about it. Even if you came from what was normal in the past, it would be traumatic today because we have so much more wisdom. We deserve so much more, we know that."
‘I grew up in Houston, Texas and Texas was pretty much like the rest of the country, just maybe a little bit more tough. And six boys, we were unruly, mom's going to say “I’m going to tell your dad” and we would stop because if we didn’t stop or we did something to bother her, not cooperative, not supportive, "I'm going to tell your father" and father would come home and say bend over and took out his belt, and you’d get whipped. That was normal.' 
‘I know the darker it gets the deeper it goes and the more ecstasy I’ll feel later. After my wife’s death, it’s four years now and it’s still there. I go for a walk to the forest to a little waterfall and the trees are so tall and I go into a heightened state of ecstasy and meditation.’ 
 
ABOUT THE HOST HELEN LEE
Founder & Principal Coach of Lee Heiss Coaching, Helen Lee coached thousands of clients worldwide and multinationals in Asia-Pacific in the last three decades. She created a powerful ontological coaching methodology that ignites the true greatness or invincibility in people. Thoroughly tested and honed over 20 years, this methodology consistently and rapidly produces desired results.
Helen was also a journalist who later ran her own communications consultancies in Australia and Asia.The Business Times listed her in its “Who’s Who of Women Shaping Singapore” while The Straits Times named her “The Leader Prodder” in a feature on Singapore’s top coaches.
 
VALUABLE RESOURCES
To become a member of the Transform and Thrive Club and benefit from monthly powerful live sessions on Zoom video calls and multimedia coaching, check out and sign up here:
www.transformandthrive.club
 
CONTACT METHOD
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