Send us a textQuote: Seneca - “It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste much of it.”Why are the holidays so great, but cause so many problems?Who shows up to the holidays?The Oversharer (aka The Dirty Laundry Dance)The “I can do that” relativeThe CriticizerThe Ultimatum MakerThe “I’m so busy I can’t talk” (aka The Avoider)The “Why aren’t you married yet?” old personThe Six Types of Boundaries by Nedra TawwabPhysicalSexualIntelectualEmotionalMaterialTimeWhat are some common boundary violations? How do I change my boundaries during the holidays? Why can I hold a boundary all year, but once the holidays come, I fall apart?Have my boundaries become too porous or rigid this holiday season?Extra tools to hold the boundaries: Communicate early and often (which means you have to plan ahead); make boundaries realistic; support system; say NO; understand your triggers; use accountability, not blame, to express boundaries; self-care and mindfulness; be willing to reevaluate and adapt boundaries.Relapse prevention planning for the Holidays is very similar to setting boundaries. Activities: self-care, meditation, exercise, connection, 12-step meetings, regular accountability, avoid toxic situations, hold boundaries, offer yourself grace, and a little more connection.Quote: Robert Frost - “In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.”Don’t let a difficult holiday experience, or let down, ruin how you view yourself. Don’t allow a slip to tell you, you lost everything and are back to zero. 

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