There may be many reasons that you have fear of commitment, not least your attachment style, your beliefs about relationships and your relationship with yourself. If you are scared of commitment, John is here to detail how you can identify the nature of your fear and also, possibly, its source. KEY TAKEAWAYS You may have commitment phobia if you prefer to keep your relationships on a superficial or casual level An insecure attachment style called ‘dismissive avoidant’ or ‘fear avoidance’ may be a sign of a problem.  You may find it difficult to consider or discuss the future of a relationship. To overcome this, small steps are required so as not to trigger you to flee the situation. Fault finding and constant doubts can also be a pointer to this problem. Usually, the faults and doubts reach a little, being picky and inconsequential, so concentrating on your partners’ strengths can circumvent this.  Sharing and explaining your emotions may seem like a very vulnerable position, so you may avoid this by switching off or escaping when the subject of you is approached.  BEST MOMENTS ‘To keep every relationship in the ‘friends with benefits’ space means you struggle to be with people at a deeper level and only comfortable in surface relationships.’  ‘By understanding your attachment and working on overcoming these barriers you can start to entertain the idea of closer relationships without your brain jumping in and trying to protect you.’ ‘One thing that can cause a lack of trust is a lack of belief in yourself, that you don’t deserve good things, that you are bound to be disappointed by people so be nice to yourself as well as the person that you’re in the relationship with.’  ‘Being vulnerable means that you are being open, you are being brave and that emotionally open people are strong, that they have emotional intelligence.’     VALUABLE RESOURCES Link to my workshop -   https://www.johnkennycoaching.com/5- things-you-need-to-create-a-healthy-loving-relationship/ To get in touch - email –  [email protected]  or book a complimentary call –  https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy           ABOUT THE HOST I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.   CONTACT METHOD Facebook –  https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching LinkedIn –  https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching Insta –  https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/ Twitter –  https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach} 
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