Are you feeling overwhelmed by navigating the complexities of today's teenagers?In this profoundly insightful and practical episode, Ian Bowen sits down with Leigh Devine, a seasoned therapist and founder of Lotus of Life Counseling with over 23 years of experience. Leigh pulls from her vast expertise in schools, hospitals, and private practice to shed light on the inner world of adolescents and provide a roadmap for adults to support them effectively.She delves into the critical importance of validation over compliance, how to regulate your own nervous system during heated moments, and why a teen's lie is often a shield, not a sword. Leigh also shares tangible strategies for building self-esteem in a world of social media comparison and fostering the resilience kids need to transition successfully into "emerging adulthood."This is a must-listen for anyone, who wants to move beyond reactionary parenting and mentoring. Parents could unlock becoming a grounded, trusted guide for the young people in their lives.In this episode, you’ll discover:1. The two most common patterns of adversity teens face today and how to spot the early warning signs of declining mental health.2. Why validation is the cornerstone of building trust with a teenager (and how it's different from agreement).3. A simple, in-the-moment tool for parents to de-escalate their own anger and turn a disciplinary moment into a teaching one.4. The surprising reason why teenagers lie and how to create an environment where they feel safe telling the truth.5. Practical strategies for helping teens build healthy body confidence and self-worth in the age of YouTube and social media comparison.6. How to support the transition from adolescence to young adulthood by being a "resource," not a "helicopter."Key Takeaways:1. Validate to Build Trust: Validation is the fastest way to build a bridge of trust. Acknowledging a teen's feelings as real is not about agreeing with them. It’s about making them feel heard.2. Regulate Yourself First: The most powerful parenting tool in a crisis is your own regulated nervous system. Walking away to breathe is not a sign of weakness; it's a strategic move that models emotional intelligence.3. Connection is Protection: Teens who are isolated and lack connection to peers, clubs, or other supportive adults are at higher risk. Fostering these connections is a proactive step toward safeguarding their mental health.4. Build the Human, Not the Résumé: Focus on praising character, effort, and integrity over outward appearance or achievement. This builds a core sense of self-worth that isn't dependent on external validation.5. Let Them "FIO" (Figure It Out): Resilience is born from overcoming adversity. Allowing teens to solve their own problems (within safe boundaries) gives them the blueprint to handle future challenges.Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction to the Positive Persistence Podcast01:28 - Meet Leigh Devine: Therapist and Founder of Lotus of Life Counseling03:03 - Common Patterns of Adversity Faced by Teens Today06:00 - The Power of Validation and How It Builds Trust & Identity09:05 - Finding the Balance: Giving Teens Space vs. Providing Guidance12:32 - Evolving as a Parent: Moving Beyond "Because I Said So"17:08 - The Regulated Parent: How to Pause and De-escalate in Heated Moments21:50 - Understanding Why Teens Lie: It’s Often a Protection Mechanism27:09 - Early Warning Signs of Teen Mental Health Struggles30:24 - The Critical Role of Social Connection (Online and Offline)34:11 - Building Healthy Body Image and Self-Esteem in a Digital World44:07 - The "Emerging Adult": Supporting the Transition to Independence47:58 - The Ultimate Goal: Unconditional Love and Building Resilient Humans51:50 - How to Connect with Leigh Devine and Lotus of Life CounselingConnect with Leigh Devine:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lotus_of_life_counseling_Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lotusoflifeIndyWebsite: https://www.lotusoflifecounseling.net/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leigh-devine-0b69431a6/
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