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In this episode we talk about letting go of your past and moving forward with your life. We talk about forgiving ourselves and others, and we do a lovely meditation for releasing the old and stepping into our new life.
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Hello lovely people! On this episode, we're going to talk about letting go, releasing the past, and moving forward. Often times, we struggle with moving forward when we view what happened in our past as wrong or not handled well, or we question ourselves and the decisions that we made. A huge part of letting go is acceptance. Accepting that whatever happened, it turned out the best way it was going to. You evaluated the situation with the knowledge you had at the time and you came to your decision, and that's the choice you made. Or you made a spontaneous decision because you followed your gut, and that doesn't mean that it was the wrong decision, sometimes that's how the cookie crumbles. Accepting that everything worked out best case scenario is really helpful because it allows you to detach from looking at the past with hindsight now and saying “oh I should have seen that coming” or “oh I should have done this differently.” Because, you know, when you were in that situation at that time, that is the decision that you made and you had your reasons for doing it.
You made that choice because you needed to learn something from it, and now you have, so congratulate yourself on that, and then move forward. You don't have to keep carrying this luggage with you and beating yourself up for choices that you've made. You made the choices that you made at the time that made sense, and you shouldn't punish yourself for what you were feeling at the time because it was good and you need to acknowledge that. Instead, why don't you say “You know what? I'm grateful for all these wonderful things that I got from the relationship. I'm glad I learned how to love myself better, I'm glad I learned how to care for other people better.” Like, you know, whatever you learned and “I'm even grateful for the not so great things that happened” because in those not so great things that happened, you learned so much about yourself. You learned what you're willing to put up with, you learned what you don't want, you learned to not settle for these things.
People need to be kinder to themselves, and you know, the kinder you are to yourself, the kinder other people will be to you, because you won't allow yourself to be treated poorly if you stop treating yourself poorly. If you are willing to talk down to yourself, and you know just really not show up for yourself in the ways that you should then you're telling other people that it's okay to do those things to you as well. And if you're saying like “I don't know how to show up as for myself in that way, I don't know how to be my cheerleader all the time.” well, you know what, it's a learning process. It's going to take you some time, and that's totally fine. It took you years to learn to treat yourself poorly, so if you take months, years to learn how to truly and completely love yourself and treat yourself well… that's fine. You've got time. You have time. Don't worry about it, don't beat yourself up for what you did know, what you didn't know.
Don't keep looking at the past it's not going to change the more you look at it, but what you can change is the direction you're heading in so make sure that you're pointing forward and looking in the direction you want to head in and then just keep walking in that direction. You'll get there. I promise, you will get there eventually.
Instagram: @joychannelpodcast
Gmail: [email protected]
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/joychannelpodcast
Hello lovely people! On this episode, we're going to talk about letting go, releasing the past, and moving forward. Often times, we struggle with moving forward when we view what happened in our past as wrong or not handled well, or we question ourselves and the decisions that we made. A huge part of letting go is acceptance. Accepting that whatever happened, it turned out the best way it was going to. You evaluated the situation with the knowledge you had at the time and you came to your decision, and that's the choice you made. Or you made a spontaneous decision because you followed your gut, and that doesn't mean that it was the wrong decision, sometimes that's how the cookie crumbles. Accepting that everything worked out best case scenario is really helpful because it allows you to detach from looking at the past with hindsight now and saying “oh I should have seen that coming” or “oh I should have done this differently.” Because, you know, when you were in that situation at that time, that is the decision that you made and you had your reasons for doing it.
You made that choice because you needed to learn something from it, and now you have, so congratulate yourself on that, and then move forward. You don't have to keep carrying this luggage with you and beating yourself up for choices that you've made. You made the choices that you made at the time that made sense, and you shouldn't punish yourself for what you were feeling at the time because it was good and you need to acknowledge that. Instead, why don't you say “You know what? I'm grateful for all these wonderful things that I got from the relationship. I'm glad I learned how to love myself better, I'm glad I learned how to care for other people better.” Like, you know, whatever you learned and “I'm even grateful for the not so great things that happened” because in those not so great things that happened, you learned so much about yourself. You learned what you're willing to put up with, you learned what you don't want, you learned to not settle for these things.
People need to be kinder to themselves, and you know, the kinder you are to yourself, the kinder other people will be to you, because you won't allow yourself to be treated poorly if you stop treating yourself poorly. If you are willing to talk down to yourself, and you know just really not show up for yourself in the ways that you should then you're telling other people that it's okay to do those things to you as well. And if you're saying like “I don't know how to show up as for myself in that way, I don't know how to be my cheerleader all the time.” well, you know what, it's a learning process. It's going to take you some time, and that's totally fine. It took you years to learn to treat yourself poorly, so if you take months, years to learn how to truly and completely love yourself and treat yourself well… that's fine. You've got time. You have time. Don't worry about it, don't beat yourself up for what you did know, what you didn't know.
Don't keep looking at the past it's not going to change the more you look at it, but what you can change is the direction you're heading in so make sure that you're pointing forward and looking in the direction you want to head in and then just keep walking in that direction. You'll get there. I promise, you will get there eventually.
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