Listen "#159 Just because we want it doesn't mean we have to have it"
Episode Synopsis
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On this episode, I share my experience from being a guest on Death, Sex & Money with Anna Sale. Then I dig into the idea of wanting things but still choosing not to have them and how it applies to various aspects of life, especially for those of us dealing with hoarding disorder. I’ll discuss how the disorder can distort our perception of items, leading to irrational attachments. I look at how desires often change over time, the unhealthy attachments formed for identity, comfort, or security, and how fear of regret can hinder the decluttering process.
Choosing Not to Have Desired Items
Distortion of item perception in hoarding disorder
Temporary nature of desires
Safety and clutter concerns
Emotional and Irrational Attachments
Understanding and challenging emotional attachments
Exploring reasons for keeping or acquiring items
Addressing “irrational” beliefs
Dealing with fear of regret
Joy from finding things often surpasses regret (Jasmine Sleigh's insight)
Managing regret is possible
Decision-making with clutter in mind
Not Retaining Items for Others
It's not our responsibility to keep items for others
Prioritising personal and familial well-being
Setting boundaries regarding others' potential desires
Feeling loss, fear, sadness, and nostalgia
Acknowledgment and validation of these feelings
Communicating fears and emotions
Recognising and challenging irrational thoughts and feelings
Celebrating small victories without adding more clutter
Liberation and freedom from letting go
Misinterpreting laziness as anxiety
Anxious sloth and decreased productivity
Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe
Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/
On this episode, I share my experience from being a guest on Death, Sex & Money with Anna Sale. Then I dig into the idea of wanting things but still choosing not to have them and how it applies to various aspects of life, especially for those of us dealing with hoarding disorder. I’ll discuss how the disorder can distort our perception of items, leading to irrational attachments. I look at how desires often change over time, the unhealthy attachments formed for identity, comfort, or security, and how fear of regret can hinder the decluttering process.
Choosing Not to Have Desired Items
Distortion of item perception in hoarding disorder
Temporary nature of desires
Safety and clutter concerns
Emotional and Irrational Attachments
Understanding and challenging emotional attachments
Exploring reasons for keeping or acquiring items
Addressing “irrational” beliefs
Dealing with fear of regret
Joy from finding things often surpasses regret (Jasmine Sleigh's insight)
Managing regret is possible
Decision-making with clutter in mind
Not Retaining Items for Others
It's not our responsibility to keep items for others
Prioritising personal and familial well-being
Setting boundaries regarding others' potential desires
Feeling loss, fear, sadness, and nostalgia
Acknowledgment and validation of these feelings
Communicating fears and emotions
Recognising and challenging irrational thoughts and feelings
Celebrating small victories without adding more clutter
Liberation and freedom from letting go
Misinterpreting laziness as anxiety
Anxious sloth and decreased productivity
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