In this eye-opening episode of The Stroke It Podcast, host Jenny Townsend talks with trauma-informed healer Emma Lyons about how family dysfunction and intergenerational trauma shape the “inner narcissist” — that shaming, controlling voice that keeps us small. Emma shares how she reclaimed her power by naming that voice, setting boundaries (including going no-contact), and rebuilding her nervous system from the inside out.From scapegoats and golden children to enmeshment and conditional love, this conversation explains the roles in narcissistic family systems — and why confronting a narcissist almost never works. Instead, Emma offers a path to becoming “un-shameable”: break the trance, stop feeding the shame voice, and come back to your own truth.You’ll learn how to tell intuition from self-attack, why shame is about control (not growth), and how to model change without trying to fix everyone else. It’s direct, compassionate, and built for anyone ready to end the cycle and choose self-leadership.--What You’ll Hear in This Episode✅ Family roles 101: scapegoat, invisible child, golden child, enabler✅ Covert vs. overt narcissism—and why calling it out backfires✅ Intuition vs. “inner narcissist”: the one-question test✅ Why shame keeps you stuck (and why empathy—not shame—drives growth)✅ Emma’s B.R.E.A.K. method to dismantle the shame voice✅ Boundaries, no-contact, and healing your nervous system✅ Modeling change instead of fixing others—becoming truly un-shameableResources & LinksFree guide from Emma: 5 Signs It’s Time to Break Up with Your Inner Narcissist – https://subscribepage.io/GtaJ5sFollow Emma on Instagram: @trauma.mmatrixLearn more: Search Trauma Matrix on your favorite platformsConnect with Jenny on Instagram: @thestrokeitguideShare this episode with someone who’s ready to break the cycleChapters00:00 Welcome & why most families carry dysfunction04:12 Emma’s story: distance, discovery, and going no-contact11:08 Family roles: scapegoat, invisible child, golden child, enmeshment18:45 Covert vs. overt narcissism (and the danger of confrontation)25:30 Intuition or inner critic? The quick litmus test31:05 Shame isn’t a healthy motivator—here’s what actually heals36:22 Emma’s B.R.E.A.K. method to end the shame trance44:10 Boundaries, nervous-system safety, and modeling change52:05 Resources, free download, and how to connect with Emma—If this episode resonated, leave a 5-star review and send it to a friend. Your shares help more people find the tools to heal.🍋 Get in touch + check out my courses!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jennyaldaytownsend/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jennyaldaytownsend/Website: jennyaldaytownsend.comPodcast: https://strokeit.buzzsprout.com/Email: contact@jOrder Stroke It now at jennyaldaytownsend.com/book. Your order includes a signed copy, shipping and handling, and great Bonus items!Follow the Stroke It Guide on socials to stay connected and to get tips on how you too can get your STROKE on'!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jennyaldaytownsend/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thestrokeitguide Check out more about Jenny Alday Townsend by visiting http://www.jennyaldaytownsend.com Did you know there are free downloads available on my website? Go to All Products | Jenny Alday Townsend and snag the 4 Ground Rules to Elevate your life. Planning your future? Develop your 1-3-5 and change your life path!

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