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Episode Synopsis
In this episode of the podcast Gavin is joined by Leslie Davis, the author of ‘You Can’t Eat Love’ to talk about the lessons she learned as she discovered how to love herself and changed her relationship with food – which was her drug of choice.
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KEY TAKEAWAYS
I learned that I am enough just as I am, I don’t need to live up or down to other people’s aspirations or inspirations. My dreams and my desires are sufficient. I can choose my own path and not worry about what other people are thinking or if they agree with my path. If it makes me happy that is enough.
I grew up believing that I didn’t get to have dreams, desires or aspirations. I’m the oldest of six children and I was always told “you’re the oldest you have to do x, y and z”, even if it was something I really didn’t want to do. Also, being a female, we’re told you need to take second place to your family, you need to make sure everybody has food on the table, that they’re all taken care of and content. Then, in the workplace, I sacrificed myself on the altar of making the company successful despite not receiving an equal amount of return. I lost who I was and it took an event that sent me into a very dark place to realise that I am worthy, I do desire and do deserve to live my very best life.
When I over ate (after my mother’s death at 49 – 37 years ago) the consequence was that I would feel shame, I’d put on a whole lot of weight. I ended up losing almost 100lbs and I’ve kept it off because I’ve changed my thought process and my relationship with myself and food, I no longer need that drug of choice. Does that mean that I don’t have opportunities to slide back into bad habits? Heavens to Betsy, yes! The other day I ate 8 brownies and I had to pause and ask myself what’s going on that’s making me eat these brownies. I figured it out, forgave myself and moved on. Be kind and forgive yourself, but most importantly, listen to what’s going on that’s sending you off down that path.
I had to learn how to define my own boundaries and I had to learn to not accept people speaking unhelpful, unkind words to me. I’m not going to accept people demanding that I give something to them. For example, I’d say to my husband: “I’m going to do such and such” and he’d ask why and say I don’t need to do that and we’d end up in an argument. Once I’d learned to take care of myself my response to him now is: “I’m simply giving you information, I’m not asking permission”. Then he can do what he wants. That way I’m taking care of myself, I’m not asking his permission, I don’t require his input. Sometimes we simply need to be heard, we don’t need advice or a suggestion even if people like my husband like to fix things.
BEST MOMENTS
‘We have the power of choice. At the end of the day we can look back and say “what I did was enough”.’
‘Put your own oxygen mask on first. If you’re not taking care of yourself, you don’t have the ability or the energy to take care of other people.’
‘Chocolate cannot behave itself in my house, so it has to stay outside.’
‘I was always searching for something that I thought I did not have, that was the biggest a-ha moment. Specifically, I think I didn’t have love from other people when truthfully, I didn’t have love for myself.’
ABOUT THE GUEST
Leslie Lindsey Davis is always on a journey. Her motto is “why not?”. She measures things she wants to do against the yardstick of “When I am 80 years old, I don’t want to be sitting in my rocking chair on my front porch saying ‘I wish I would have’”.
CONTACT METHODS
Website: https://youcanteatlove.com/
ABOUT THE HOST
Gavin Scott is a born entrepreneur with a passion for start up and scale up. He has over 20 years real estate experience in investment and development.
Gavin says: Over the years I have discovered that mindset is everything. Now, that might sound obvious, but it is! You see the number of awoken minds are very few in reality. Whilst acknowledging mindset is key it is absolutely different from utilising, influencing, impacting and effecting great change, for yourself, your loved ones, friends, colleagues and the wider public.
Why?
Like most of us I have had many ups and downs. I want to share the lessons learnt and promote a better environment for all, internally and externally!
How?
Through sharing my own experiences and hosting some fabulous individuals including some big household names to discuss key topics around mindset and the success formulas I hope the listener will become inspired to create space for change for betterment in their lives. I aim to inspire change by encouragement, not by force. I intend to inspire by education, not by regulation.
CONTACT METHODS
[email protected]
You can donate to Gavin’s JustGiving page for The Ocean Cleanup by clicking here: https://bit.ly/3DRZefO
Donating through JustGiving is simple, fast and totally secure. Once you donate, they'll send your money directly to The Ocean Cleanup, so it's the most efficient way to give - saving time and cutting costs for the charity.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
I learned that I am enough just as I am, I don’t need to live up or down to other people’s aspirations or inspirations. My dreams and my desires are sufficient. I can choose my own path and not worry about what other people are thinking or if they agree with my path. If it makes me happy that is enough.
I grew up believing that I didn’t get to have dreams, desires or aspirations. I’m the oldest of six children and I was always told “you’re the oldest you have to do x, y and z”, even if it was something I really didn’t want to do. Also, being a female, we’re told you need to take second place to your family, you need to make sure everybody has food on the table, that they’re all taken care of and content. Then, in the workplace, I sacrificed myself on the altar of making the company successful despite not receiving an equal amount of return. I lost who I was and it took an event that sent me into a very dark place to realise that I am worthy, I do desire and do deserve to live my very best life.
When I over ate (after my mother’s death at 49 – 37 years ago) the consequence was that I would feel shame, I’d put on a whole lot of weight. I ended up losing almost 100lbs and I’ve kept it off because I’ve changed my thought process and my relationship with myself and food, I no longer need that drug of choice. Does that mean that I don’t have opportunities to slide back into bad habits? Heavens to Betsy, yes! The other day I ate 8 brownies and I had to pause and ask myself what’s going on that’s making me eat these brownies. I figured it out, forgave myself and moved on. Be kind and forgive yourself, but most importantly, listen to what’s going on that’s sending you off down that path.
I had to learn how to define my own boundaries and I had to learn to not accept people speaking unhelpful, unkind words to me. I’m not going to accept people demanding that I give something to them. For example, I’d say to my husband: “I’m going to do such and such” and he’d ask why and say I don’t need to do that and we’d end up in an argument. Once I’d learned to take care of myself my response to him now is: “I’m simply giving you information, I’m not asking permission”. Then he can do what he wants. That way I’m taking care of myself, I’m not asking his permission, I don’t require his input. Sometimes we simply need to be heard, we don’t need advice or a suggestion even if people like my husband like to fix things.
BEST MOMENTS
‘We have the power of choice. At the end of the day we can look back and say “what I did was enough”.’
‘Put your own oxygen mask on first. If you’re not taking care of yourself, you don’t have the ability or the energy to take care of other people.’
‘Chocolate cannot behave itself in my house, so it has to stay outside.’
‘I was always searching for something that I thought I did not have, that was the biggest a-ha moment. Specifically, I think I didn’t have love from other people when truthfully, I didn’t have love for myself.’
ABOUT THE GUEST
Leslie Lindsey Davis is always on a journey. Her motto is “why not?”. She measures things she wants to do against the yardstick of “When I am 80 years old, I don’t want to be sitting in my rocking chair on my front porch saying ‘I wish I would have’”.
CONTACT METHODS
Website: https://youcanteatlove.com/
ABOUT THE HOST
Gavin Scott is a born entrepreneur with a passion for start up and scale up. He has over 20 years real estate experience in investment and development.
Gavin says: Over the years I have discovered that mindset is everything. Now, that might sound obvious, but it is! You see the number of awoken minds are very few in reality. Whilst acknowledging mindset is key it is absolutely different from utilising, influencing, impacting and effecting great change, for yourself, your loved ones, friends, colleagues and the wider public.
Why?
Like most of us I have had many ups and downs. I want to share the lessons learnt and promote a better environment for all, internally and externally!
How?
Through sharing my own experiences and hosting some fabulous individuals including some big household names to discuss key topics around mindset and the success formulas I hope the listener will become inspired to create space for change for betterment in their lives. I aim to inspire change by encouragement, not by force. I intend to inspire by education, not by regulation.
CONTACT METHODS
[email protected]
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