Our feelings come directly out of out thought about the events. It's not the events. It's what we think about them.

Classic example: clowns. Some people see a clown and laugh. Others see a clown and cry. It's not the clown. It's the thoughts about the clown.

Similarly, if we dwell on negative aspects of the day, then our emotional reaction to those things will be negative.

On the other hand, if we relish the positive things that happen, then we'll emotionally respond with positive feelings.

People say things like, "well, you just ruined the vibe" or "thanks for spoiling the mood" come right out of this principle. Calling attention to the negative results in negative feelings. Focusing on the positive (without having you head stuck in a cloud!) results in positive feelings.

If you want to feel better, think better.

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