Transcript for Ep 17:Welcome to SHE is Confident. Hi! This is Deon Teh and in this episode, I will be sharing with you about POWER OF GRATITUDE.Have you ever feel that even though you have gratitude but things do not go well for you?Although you do things with values and kindness but it didn't happen according to what you wish for?We are taught to have gratitude since young and being grateful is a common thing that we do. It is a standard moral value regardless of who we are. We are trained to have gratitude in order to get the things we want in return. This is wrong way of understanding the teaching as we often fear that when we are not grateful, we will not get the things we want and if we want to get the things we desired, we have to be grateful. We need to redefine our thinking towards gratitude and the core of gratitude. Many people have a herd mentality. When people are told to have gratitude, we should not blindly follow or do without really feeling grateful from your heart. For example, if we were to be invited for a birthday celebration for someone, by right we should feel grateful for them to invite us. However, when we have to spend time and money to prepare the present, or set aside some time to attend the celebration and we feel that it is troublesome or even complain about having to attend the party, any gratitude that we wish for or have is meaningless. This will not become a sincere gratitude.Everyday  I will still have many complaints and be dissatisfied with life or anything that I encounter. Although I do not feel good feeling this way, I believe that it is ok as It is only human nature to behave this way.A few years ago when I was tidying my bookshelf, I found this book called: Think and grow rich” a book which I bought 15 years ago but i recalled that when i first read it, i did not feel interested and i did not understand what the book was about and hence I stopped reading halfway through. I decided to read this book again. After reading this book, I feel that I am able to understand what the author was trying to express through the book. I felt excited by the book and the teachings inside, but somehow I did not take action.Even though I knew that in order for things to happen or things to change, I needed to take action, but I was unable to do anything as I did not know where to start with the knowledge I gained. I started to searching for similar books, hoping to learn simpler methods for me to take action. I found this book called the secret and also The power. The author reveals that the power of gratitude is what makes you different and in order to achieve that you need to take action. The author suggests that we should have the habit of writing a gratitude journal for 28 days. I was curious, will I really be able to learn and have the power of gratitude just in 28 days?On the first day, I really don't know what to write and I simply just reference what others wrote. I had planned for 28 days of gratitude but most days I did not write wholeheartedly because I doubt the words of the author as I did not see any changes on myself. I did not give up as I was curious to see the end result after 28days. After writing for 28 days, I was not able to see any major changes in myself hence I stopped writing. Last year,  I started this practice again and I believe that there is really truth in what the author wrote. This time, I make sure that I put in more effort on writing and have a sense of well being to make sure that my thoughts are words of gratitude. This time I did not limit myself on the number of days to write. I found that I was able to write effortlessly and whole heartedly. I let nature take its course and did not expect anything in return. Everything seems to run smoothly for me. I was able to feel grateful for everything, including events that did not go my way. I realised that the action of writing a gratitude journal became a habit for me and I was able to look at things differently and I am able to be more positive and not be swayed by negative thoughts. This is definitely the power of gratitude working for me. When our gratitude comes with an expectation, it will not be a sincere gratitude. You will be unable to feel the power of gratitude and what it can bring to you. Whenever you feel grateful, ask yourself if it is really from your inner heart?Can you recall the number of times that you really feel grateful from the bottom of your heart and was touched by it.In order for the law of attraction to work, having gratitude is the key. Many of us have it and we often wonder why it doesn't work for us. Having gratitude without action and inconsistent in thinking, it is equivalent to having no gratitude. We need our heart and brain to be aligned. Gratitude has to be built in like a habit, it has to become part of us, like how we breathe. If you want to talk about transforming your inner child, healing your relationships with yourself and money, connect with me through my Facebook and the link is in the show notes.Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/leeyongtehInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/d_t_l_y/Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/deon-teh-leeyong-573a0766/I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you GET BACK YOUR INNER STRENGTH

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