Here's the reality: when we create boundaries and make changes, we will disappoint people. There's no way around it. But until two weeks ago, I'd never really acknowledged why I worked tirelessly sacrificing myself, my time, my energy, my peace to make sure no one was ever disappointed in me. This week I'm telling you the truth about why we avoid disappointment, what we're actually afraid of, and how to sit with someone's disappointment without abandoning yourself. This one goes deep—I share how 18 years of marriage to disappointment taught me to make myself invisible, and how I'm finally learning that my needs, wants, and desires can have value too. In this episode: The four patterns that keep us trapped: the family project manager, the woman making up for something, the problem preventer, and the woman who measures worth by what she does Why disappointing someone feels like moral failure (because we absorbed that our worth equals our usefulness) What we're actually afraid of: they'll leave, they'll confirm we're selfish, conflict, or becoming like the people who disappointed us The difference between being kind and being available—and why availability without boundaries kills kindness How to tell if you're trying to control their feelings versus actually being kind The five steps for sitting with someone's disappointment: separate their feelings from your responsibility, acknowledge without apologizing, don't re-explain, feel your feelings but don't let them override your values, and give yourself permission to care while holding the boundary Quote of the week: "A world where we disappoint no one is a world where we prioritize nothing. If your priorities never seem to matter, this could be an episode that brings answers your way." Practice for this week: Notice where you're making yourself small to avoid someone's disappointment. What boundaries have you been too afraid to set? What would it look like to prioritize yourself just once and let someone else figure it out?

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