Shame Is a Liar: The Addiction, the Silence, and the Story That Almost Took Me Out

02/07/2025 27 min Episodio 33

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What if the story you’re most ashamed of… is the one that could set someone else free?In this deeply personal episode of The Hot Wash, host Kyle Stoy—a combat veteran, former SWAT operator, and mitochondrial health coach—opens up about a chapter of his life he’s never shared publicly in this much depth: his quiet battle with addiction, shame, and the inherited weight of generational trauma.After surviving an IED blast in Afghanistan and nearly losing his leg, Kyle was prescribed heavy pain medications—including a Dilaudid drip during extended hospitalization. Upon release, the medications continued—along with emotional isolation. Alone in a recovery dorm, technically still in charge as a lieutenant, Kyle spiraled.What followed wasn’t a dramatic overdose or rock bottom—it was something more common, more dangerous, and more silent:👉 Holed up in a dark room👉 Playing video games👉 Taking his meds👉 And avoiding everyoneBut what kept him stuck wasn’t just the addiction—it was the shame of knowing he came from a family line that struggled with the same thing. A mother with a history of drug use. A father who died from alcoholic liver failure. And now… him.The shame told him to hide. To self-manage. To suffer in silence.But someone noticed. Someone checked on him. And that moment of honest confrontation became the first step back to light.How shame convinces high performers to suffer in silenceThe invisible way addiction creeps in during recovery and traumaWhy acknowledging your truth is the strongest move you can makeThe power of reframing emotion instead of repressing itHow to disrupt shame’s narrative and rewrite the beliefWhether you’re facing addiction, anxiety, depression, or isolation—this episode reminds you: you’re not alone, and your story is not your identity.Join the Rewired Experience Skool community at:🌐 https://rewiredexperience.comInside, you’ll access:✅ Free mindset training, courses, and emotional reframing tools✅ The full Rewired Experience Framework (Take a Knee, Drink Water, Reshoot Your Azimuth, Charlie Mike)✅ A growing community of high performers, warriors, and everyday people who refuse to stay stuckThe Hot Wash is a tactical debrief series within the Rewired Experience Podcast—created to dismantle the 15 psychological and spiritual obstacles designed to keep you from living with clarity, conviction, and mission.Past episodes include:Comfort – The illusion that makes you settleDenial – The refusal to name the real problemFear – The lie that keeps you from taking the next stepDistraction – The noise that drowns out your directionPerfectionism – The lie that says “not yet” foreverNow, in Episode 6, we take on the obstacle that rewrites identity and kills progress from the inside: Shame.🎙️ Rewired Experience Podcast is hosted by Kyle Stoy—Purple Heart recipient, health coach, retired SWAT operator, father, and founder of the Rewired Experience Framework. His mission? Help people turn stress into fuel—and Continue the Mission.🔔 Subscribe now, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear that their story isn’t over.You are not your worst day. You are who you choose to become after it. Charlie Mike.#ShameRecovery #AddictionAwareness #MentalHealthForMen #EmotionalResilience #VeteranPodcast #SWATRecovery #RewiredExperience #CombatVeteran #PurposeDrivenLife #OvercomingShame #GenerationalHealing #PerformanceAnxiety #MindsetShift #EmotionalReframing