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Colter, Cayla, and Lauren explore the roots, costs, and recovery process of people pleasing, highlighting how it often stems from fear of conflict, guilt, or learned conditioning. The hosts discuss the emotional and relational toll—like resentment, burnout, and lack of authentic connection—while also offering practical tools to build awareness, set boundaries, and communicate needs more clearly. Ultimately, they emphasize shifting from guilt-based to values-based decision-making in relationships.
Main Talking Points:
Fear and guilt origins
Childhood conditioning
Emotional costs
Boundary setting
Practicing “soft no’s”
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Colter, Cayla, and Lauren explore the roots, costs, and recovery process of people pleasing, highlighting how it often stems from fear of conflict, guilt, or learned conditioning. The hosts discuss the emotional and relational toll—like resentment, burnout, and lack of authentic connection—while also offering practical tools to build awareness, set boundaries, and communicate needs more clearly. Ultimately, they emphasize shifting from guilt-based to values-based decision-making in relationships.
Main Talking Points:
Fear and guilt origins
Childhood conditioning
Emotional costs
Boundary setting
Practicing “soft no’s”
Give Me Discounts!
Cozy Earth - Black Friday has come early at Cozy Earth! Right now, you can stack my code “IDO” on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. These deals won’t last, so start your holiday shopping today!
Beducate - Visit and use code relationship69 for 65% off the annual pass.
Audible - Listen to this incredible reading rendition of Pride & Prejudice
Skylight - Get $30 off your 15 inch calendar.
Function - 160+ Lab Tests for $365. Learn more & get started at
Amazfit - Visit to get 10% off
Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners!
If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren
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