In this powerful conversation on Radio Goolarri, Sandy Dann sits down with Gary Fahey — former elite federal police officer, crisis intervention specialist, and mental resilience mentor — to unpack the hidden psychology behind rudeness.

From being cut off in a meeting to enduring constant put-downs, rudeness isn’t just unpleasant — it can erode mental health, trigger fight-or-flight responses, and even become emotionally abusive if left unchecked. Gary explains why rudeness is rarely about you, but instead reveals what’s happening inside the person being rude.

Together, Sandy and Gary explore:

The five psychological reasons people are rude

How stress, insecurity, pain, and toxic environments fuel bad behaviour

Why repeated exposure to rudeness can cause long-term damage

Practical strategies to protect yourself, set boundaries, and stay grounded

Gary also shares insights from his decades of experience — from frontline policing to mentoring CEOs, athletes, and everyday Australians — showing how anyone can build resilience and stop carrying other people’s baggage.

👉 A must-listen interview for anyone who’s ever been on the receiving end of rudeness and wants to take back their peace of mind.

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