This is your Modern Women's Podcast podcast.Modern Women’s Podcast, let’s dive straight in.Today we’re talking about the changing role of women in modern relationships – not in theory, but in the real, messy, beautiful way it shows up in our lives, our group chats, our bank accounts, and our hearts.According to the Pew Research Center, most people now say changing gender roles have made it easier for women to lead satisfying lives, be successful at work, and for families to earn enough to live comfortably. At the same time, far fewer people think these changes have made life easier for men, which already tells us: the relationship script is being rewritten, but not everyone is holding the pen in the same way.So here’s the first discussion point: when both partners work, what does “fair” look like at home? Sociologist Arlie Hochschild, in her book The Second Shift, found that even in dual‑income couples, women still do most of the housework and emotional labor. That was decades ago, but many women listening right now will recognize that pattern today. You might be paying half the rent, outperforming at work, but still remembering birthdays, planning dates, managing childcare, and smoothing every conflict. The question for the modern relationship is: are we really partners, or are women still the quiet project managers of love?That takes us to the idea of “partial feminism” in dating, described by writers at Dartmouth College as what happens when women give up traditional benefits, like men always paying, but keep traditional burdens, like doing the emotional work. You split the bill, but you also carry the mental load. You reject the “provider” myth, yet still feel guilty if you don’t cook, care, and compromise more. A powerful talking point for listeners and their partners is: where in our relationship are we accidentally doing more for less?Modern dating culture adds another twist. The Matchmaker UK reports that in 2025, many Gen Z and millennial women are totally comfortable splitting the bill and messaging first on apps, but data from the Oxford Internet Institute and eHarmony shows men still message first more often, and women who initiate sometimes get lower response rates. So we say we want equality, but the old expectations quietly hang around. That opens up another conversation: how brave are we willing to be about breaking scripts, even when it costs us comfort or attention?Then there’s power and money. With more women out‑earning male partners, the old “man as provider, woman as nurturer” model is cracking. Some couples thrive in this shift. Others struggle with pride, resentment, or shame. A great prompt for listeners is: if money were totally off the table, what would partnership look like for you? And once you answer that, how can you design your roles around values, not gender?Finally, we have to talk about choice and courage. Sociologist Eva Illouz, in Why Love Hurts, shows how modern love is still shaped by old power imbalances. That means empowerment in relationships isn’t just making more money or speaking your mind; it’s being willing to redraw the deal. To say: I will not be the unpaid therapist, the default parent, the backup plan. I want reciprocity.So as you listen, ask yourself: Where am I still playing small in love? Where am I over‑functioning? And what would it look like to negotiate a relationship where care, money, effort, and vulnerability are shared, not assumed?Thank you for tuning in to Modern Women’s Podcast. If this sparked something for you, make sure you subscribe so you don’t miss the next conversation. This has been a quiet please production, for more check out quiet please dot ai.For more http://www.quietplease.aiGet the best deals https://amzn.to/3ODvOtaThis content was created in partnership and with the help of Artificial Intelligence AI

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