Why We Stay: Breaking the Childhood Contract That Makes Us Addicted to Unreliable Partners

26/09/2025 11 min
Why We Stay: Breaking the Childhood Contract That Makes Us Addicted to Unreliable Partners

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Explores why some people keep ending up in unfulfilling or damaging relationships, tracing the pattern back to early emotional experiences. It suggests that as children, many learned to idealize disappointing parents while questioning their own worth, creating a powerful habit of hoping that someone cold or hurtful will one day become loving. In adulthood, this turns into an addiction to painful expectations, where suffering is misread as proof of love. The passage advises letting go of the belief that an unkind partner will change and stresses that the only valid reason to remain in a relationship is consistent kindness; any promise without real follow-through should be taken as a clear sign to leave.Produced by:https://www.podcaistudio.com/

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