In today's episode of It's a lovely time, I'm looking back at how the relationships I have today were forged by the relationships of my past. Ending the season, the same way it started, with rapid fire episodes to close out each category.
Taking a moment to reflect and vulnerably share, before stepping into season 2. As I've continued to say, living with intentionality and purpose is incredibly important to me. I've been feeling called to share more about where I've been before I continue to share today's experiences and where I'm going. I look forward to hearing from you and coming back to Season 2 refreshed and ready. I'm glad you're here.
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How we were treated in childhood shapes all of us and influences the adult relationships we seek and pour ourselves into
Our adult relationships, from friendships to romantic and co-workers, are genuinely shaped, informed, and impacted by our upbringing. Our relationship with God first and then ourselves has to come before any additional relationships. Even if you're in the middle of what could be a great friendship or marriage, to seek lasting quality we must reflect and take the time to grow before we can continue to flourish.
For me, the story goes, "people leave," so for years, instead of letting people leave or hurt me, I did everything I could to make sure I was the one in control. If anyone was leaving, it would be me or on my terms.
Obviously, this was not healthy but I had zero self awareness around this.
My friendships, jobs, relationships, everything was impacted. If I every started to feel too much or love something or some one I made a wedge and either forced them out or took myself out of the equation all together.
There was a lot of hurt & pain for me but especially those I impacted. A lot of those decisions were made with my reptilian brain, in survival mode. I was in survival mode for almost a decade. 
And while our previous relationships might have a negative impact on us, it's not an excuse for poor behavior or mistreatment of others. So we must do the work to grow within to step into who we were meant to be. In God's eyes, we were not meant to be perfect, so release that expectation and move in the work. Understanding that, this is work we will continue to do throughout our lives.
It wasn't until I allowed myself to be loved that I was able to grow and seek my full potential. When people left to realize that was going to be ok and often times, it was not in my control. But if it was, how to appropriately react, respond and make lasting change.
The quality of our relationships can determine the quality of our lives, so let's start by defining what you want out of relationships so that you can be fully grounded in who you are before stepping into and trying to nurture someone else.

Hello lovely,
Meg here, I'm glad you stopped by to listen in! 
Please always feel free to DM me on IG! I look forward to growing with you and sharing my experiences in this crazy journey and would love to hear more about yours.
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X's & O's, Megs

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