What makes a good long-term partner, according to science? And why is it important to be mindful when we are choosing who to settle down with? In this episode, we dig into the research about what to look for and — equally important — what not to look for in a long-term partner. Plus, how do you clarify what you need in a partner? How can you differentiate between dealbreakers and “nice-to-haves” so that you can more effectively date?Key Takeaways00:00:00 - Intro and episode overview00:02:42 - Why be mindful of who we choose as a long-term partner?00:06:14 - What science says about what makes a good long-term partner00:25:19 - What doesn’t make someone a good partner, according to research00:51:21 - How to clarify what you need in a partner01:04:40 - How to clarify what you want vs. what you needResources MentionedFor full show notes with links, visit relationshipcenter.com/podcastDownloadable Guide: What to look for in a long-term partner (includes the Relationship Inventory and the Ideal Mate Exercise)Warren Buffett says the most important decision you’ll ever make has nothing to do with your money or careerStudy from Tel Aviv: Dissatisfaction with Married Life in Men Is Related to Increased Stroke and All-Cause MortalityHarvard Study of Adult DevelopmentPlays Well with Others: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong, By Eric BarkerThe Gottman InstituteHow to Not Die Alone, by Logan UryDeeper Dating, by Ken PagePeople Are Dating All Wrong, According to Data ScienceHave a question or comment? Email us at [email protected]. We love hearing from you!If you’d like to work with one of the talented clinicians on our team, go to relationshipcenter.com/apply-now to apply for a free 30-minute consultation.To get a monthly email with our best content, go to relationshipcenter.com/newsletter.If something in this episode touched you, will you share it with a friend? That helps us reach more sweet humans like you.Lastly, we’d love it if you would leave us a rating and review wherever you listen to podcasts. And be sure to hit subscribe while you’re there so you never miss an episode!

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