Listen "009: Avoiding Avoidance (feat. Tone Deff)"
Episode Synopsis
What if your strength comes from the very thing, you were told was your weakness?
In this episode, photographer, musician, and educator, Tone Deff, joins me for a gentle and introspective conversation about emotional suppression, self-worth, and stepping into your truth---one choice at a time.
We discuss:
- Growing up isolated in a deeply religious household, and how photography became a way to see and be seen
- Struggling with vulnerability after being taught that pain should be hidden---not healed
- Why avoiding discomfort isn't sustainable, and how growth starts with choosing your own peace
- The quiet tension of envy and freedom---how he and his siblings look at each other's lives with admiration, but also with longing
- How reading and reflecting on ancient philosophy helps him navigate modern struggles
- His journey to unlearn the lie that "my pain doesn't matter because someone else has it worse"
Support the show:
- Subscribe for new episodes
- Follow "How We Heal" on Instagram: @HowWeHealPDX
In this episode, photographer, musician, and educator, Tone Deff, joins me for a gentle and introspective conversation about emotional suppression, self-worth, and stepping into your truth---one choice at a time.
We discuss:
- Growing up isolated in a deeply religious household, and how photography became a way to see and be seen
- Struggling with vulnerability after being taught that pain should be hidden---not healed
- Why avoiding discomfort isn't sustainable, and how growth starts with choosing your own peace
- The quiet tension of envy and freedom---how he and his siblings look at each other's lives with admiration, but also with longing
- How reading and reflecting on ancient philosophy helps him navigate modern struggles
- His journey to unlearn the lie that "my pain doesn't matter because someone else has it worse"
Support the show:
- Subscribe for new episodes
- Follow "How We Heal" on Instagram: @HowWeHealPDX
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