Self Denial to Defuse Anger

22/09/2025 25 min
Self Denial to Defuse Anger

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Episode Synopsis

We continue our series about rage in our Sept 21 Sunday gathering. This week's discussion questions are below:


Discussion Questions:

1. In what ways have you noticed culture forming you toward outrage, anxiety, or self-centeredness? The sermon mentioned consumerism, individualism, and digital formation. Which of these has the strongest pull in your life, and how do you see it affecting your peace?

2. Read Matthew 16:24–26. What do you think Jesus means by “deny yourself” in practical, everyday terms? How does Jesus’ prayer in the garden—“Not my will, but yours”—challenge the way you usually respond when you don’t get what you want?

3. John Ortberg said, “Anger is the energy I feel when my will gets frustrated.” Can you think of a recent time when your will was frustrated? How did you respond? What would a response of peace have looked like instead? Why do you think our happiness so often depends on “getting our way”? How does that set us up for outrage?

4. The sermon suggested practices like fasting, eating leftovers, letting someone else decide, or keeping a clever thought to yourself. Which one of these would be hardest for you? How might intentionally denying yourself something small help you resist larger temptations or grow in peace?

5. How could practicing self-denial not just change you personally, but change the way you interact with your family, coworkers, or neighbors? Imagine a community of people truly living this way—laying down their right to always get their way. What impact would that have on the world around them?

6. Where in your life do you most need to practice self-denial right now? What is one concrete step you can take this week to move toward becoming a person of peace rather than outrage?