Listen "90. What if you're not meeting anyone exciting?"
Episode Synopsis
My clients often tell me that they’re not finding anyone exciting on the dating sites and apps.
They scroll and swipe and sigh.
They come away deflated.
I get it. I used to feel this way too.
So I have a bit of a reality check for you today.
Expecting to find exciting guys among strangers on the internet is simply not a good plan.
The competition is likely to be pretty stiff for the most “exciting” men on these platforms and they’re almost never the best guys.
They are usually all sparkle and no substance.
Impressive looking but a nightmare to date. If you even manage to date them.
You may have already experienced this phenomenon.
I sure did.
Excitement is overrated.
As much as possible, stop expecting dating to be exciting.
Look for solid men that you can have a good relationship with.
Men who will drive you to the airport, go to work every day and care about you when you’re sick can be really awesome.
Exciting men rarely do these things.
Boring and ordinary is awesome.
You need to retrain your brain to see dating this way, but it can be done.
It’s a lot like retraining yourself to like foods that are good for you now that you’re a card-carrying grown up.
I help my clients do this all the time.
I have a great resource to help you create your very own custom man plan so that you can find a quality man ASAP.
Click here to download it or go to bit.ly/MANPLAN
They scroll and swipe and sigh.
They come away deflated.
I get it. I used to feel this way too.
So I have a bit of a reality check for you today.
Expecting to find exciting guys among strangers on the internet is simply not a good plan.
The competition is likely to be pretty stiff for the most “exciting” men on these platforms and they’re almost never the best guys.
They are usually all sparkle and no substance.
Impressive looking but a nightmare to date. If you even manage to date them.
You may have already experienced this phenomenon.
I sure did.
Excitement is overrated.
As much as possible, stop expecting dating to be exciting.
Look for solid men that you can have a good relationship with.
Men who will drive you to the airport, go to work every day and care about you when you’re sick can be really awesome.
Exciting men rarely do these things.
Boring and ordinary is awesome.
You need to retrain your brain to see dating this way, but it can be done.
It’s a lot like retraining yourself to like foods that are good for you now that you’re a card-carrying grown up.
I help my clients do this all the time.
I have a great resource to help you create your very own custom man plan so that you can find a quality man ASAP.
Click here to download it or go to bit.ly/MANPLAN
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