102. Unapologetic, Unconditional Beingness: Take up Space! Resist the Urge to Shrink! Be!! You!!

12/10/2025 57 min

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Many of us have come to know our true selves and what alignment feels like to *some* extend, but how do you ~stay~ aligned, even when life isn't? Even when your environment.. isn't?This episode is all about staying rooted in love, alignment, and authenticity - no matter what’s happening around you. We explore the continuum of contrast, the wound of rejection, and the habit of people-pleasing that pulls us out of ourselves and keep us small - especially when faced with people who project, misunderstand, or drain our energy..Because here’s the truth: the world does not have to comply for you to feel good. You do not have to change anyone or anything to be at peace. Alignment is because of *you*, not your circumstances.In this episode, you'll learn how to take radical responsibility for your alignment, understand your conditioning, and release control-oriented patterns that keep you small.We talk inner child healing, shadow work, and the truth about introversion (& social anxiety) as self-preservation - and how to bring your full, radiant self into every room. (BECAUSE THE WORLD NEEDS MORE OF YOU BEING YOU <3)xIF YOU <3 FSO, RATE THE PODCAST, LEAVE A COMMENT & SAY HI, AND STAY CONNECTED!JOIN ME IN COSTA RICA 2026!!!IG: @byvanessafontanaTIKTOK: @butterflyfountainMERCH MAILING LIST (10% off Merch + a Free Energy Protection Meditation <3)WRITE TO ME FOR A CHANCE TO BE FEATURED ON AN UPCOMING EPISODE FSO Episodes Referenced:Episode 43: Speak your Truth & Protect Your Peace: The Energy of Alignment & InfluenceShadow-Work Series, Part 1CHAPTERS:0:00-4:00: how to stay aligned, relentlessly love, + be YOU5:30: the continuum of contrast & choosing love over fear 7:00: addressing the wound of rejection + the habit of people pleasing / molding ourselves / control-oriented behaviors8:00: step 1: radical responsibility9:30: becoming aware of your conditioning 11:00: when you ask for more, you will be met with opportunities to choose MORE. relationships & opportunities are our mirrors 14:00: inner child healing, shadow-work, the WHY behind when we start hiding 18:00: when empathy & emotional attunement becomes maladaptive22:00: introversion as a self-preservation tactic / why you're actually drained by socializing30:00: you are here for a reason. you’ve done half the work - how do you take the work / alignment with you? 27:00: alignment is because of YOU, not your circumstance. why we feel a fresh perspective when we travel / go somewhere but have trouble integrating. the love you see in anything is a reflection of you34:00: you don't have to cut people off to protect your peace 37:00: if you love someone take them off the pedastal of expectation: it's not fair to them, it's not fair to you.36:00: the shift that changes everything.40:00: believe so radically 44:00: unconditional love  Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sht-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy