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Episode Synopsis
In this episode Mare and Tara have a Conscious Conversation regarding a card they pulled from the deck of "At-One-Ment: Reclaiming Our Humanity," focusing on the concept of "cleaning your no's"—saying no clearly and firmly without being wishy-washy. The discussion emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and the struggle many face in doing so.
Tara shares her personal journey, detailing how she learned to say no despite societal and familial expectations to always say yes. She recounts how her mother's teachings on self-sacrifice influenced her, leading her to overcompensate by trying to never disappoint others. She describes how this tendency has trickled down to her children and the effort she has put into teaching them to hold strong boundaries.
Two specific personal anecdotes are shared. First, Tara details a stressful situation about deciding not to visit family during the summer due to conflicting commitments and the immense relief felt when she made a firm decision. Second, she discusses a wishy-washy yes she gave to a holiday card exchange on Facebook, which she later realized should have been a firm no.
Mare responds by sharing her strategies for making decisions and handling holiday cards, emphasizing the importance of clear boundaries and self-kindness. They both acknowledge the complexity and challenges of saying no and discuss strategies to overcome it, such as practicing getting and giving no's without taking them personally.
The conversation concludes with both participants highlighting the timeliness and relevance of practicing clear no's, especially with the upcoming holiday season. They invite the audience to join in the practice of Clean No's and Strong Boundaries. How clean are your no's?
1. What is a Conscious Conversation?: Learn more here: https://www.connectionproject360.com/
2. Megs Crawford Holiday Card Workshops for the ADHD Brain. https://www.mindfulmegs.com/event-list
3. Learn more about Reclaiming Our Humanity with Author Peter J Hughes: https://peterjhughes.com/books/ReplyForwardAdd reaction
Tara shares her personal journey, detailing how she learned to say no despite societal and familial expectations to always say yes. She recounts how her mother's teachings on self-sacrifice influenced her, leading her to overcompensate by trying to never disappoint others. She describes how this tendency has trickled down to her children and the effort she has put into teaching them to hold strong boundaries.
Two specific personal anecdotes are shared. First, Tara details a stressful situation about deciding not to visit family during the summer due to conflicting commitments and the immense relief felt when she made a firm decision. Second, she discusses a wishy-washy yes she gave to a holiday card exchange on Facebook, which she later realized should have been a firm no.
Mare responds by sharing her strategies for making decisions and handling holiday cards, emphasizing the importance of clear boundaries and self-kindness. They both acknowledge the complexity and challenges of saying no and discuss strategies to overcome it, such as practicing getting and giving no's without taking them personally.
The conversation concludes with both participants highlighting the timeliness and relevance of practicing clear no's, especially with the upcoming holiday season. They invite the audience to join in the practice of Clean No's and Strong Boundaries. How clean are your no's?
1. What is a Conscious Conversation?: Learn more here: https://www.connectionproject360.com/
2. Megs Crawford Holiday Card Workshops for the ADHD Brain. https://www.mindfulmegs.com/event-list
3. Learn more about Reclaiming Our Humanity with Author Peter J Hughes: https://peterjhughes.com/books/ReplyForwardAdd reaction
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