Why “Putting Her First” Is Ruining Your Leadership l EP. 67 l

10/01/2026 16 min Episodio 67
Why “Putting Her First” Is Ruining Your Leadership  l EP. 67 l

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Send us a textNice guys believe they’re selfless.They say yes. They avoid conflict. They let their partner decide because “she’ll be happier that way.”But after coaching nearly 500 men, I’ve learned something most nice guys don’t want to hear:That behaviour isn’t selfless — it’s selfish.In this episode, I break down why phrases like “I don’t care, up to you” aren’t generous, considerate, or loving — they’re a way to avoid responsibility, rejection, and discomfort. And how that avoidance quietly forces your partner to step into a role she doesn’t want: leading.We unpack:Why decision-offloading destroys trust and polarityHow fear of getting it wrong masquerades as being “easygoing”The difference between leadership and dictatorship in relationshipsWhy women don’t want more choice — they want directionHow grounded masculine leadership actually looks in daily lifeThis episode is for the high-functioning Nice Guy who does everything “right” but still feels underpowered at home — and can’t figure out why attraction, respect, or ease feels harder than it should.If you’ve ever thought you were being a good man by stepping back… This episode will challenge that belief.Want short impactful emails to help you shift & evolve delivered right to your inbox? Join the 90 sec email club HERELooking to fast track your growth with personalised support or a guided system to help you evolve out of the nice guy, rebuild your energy, presence, intimacy & become the grounded masculine man you are capable of, apply below. Apply HERE 

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