Hello and welcome to The Anxious Attachment Solution — I’m Amber Lynn. In this episode I walk you through what happens inside your brain when anxious attachment is activated, how that creates reactive patterns, and (most importantly) a simple, repeatable framework to communicate clearly so you don’t add fuel to the fire.What we coverWhy triggers turn into survival mode (fight/flight/freeze/fawn) and how that creates drama, blame, and miscommunication.The difference between reality and the story your anxious brain makes up about your partner.A practical, step-by-step practice: PAUSE → REFLECT → REGULATE → RECONNECT → REPAIR (how to actually use it in the moment).Exact words and short scripts you can say to your partner when you notice a big reaction — examples you can personalize.How to rebuild trust with yourself (so you rely less on your partner to soothe you) and speed up repair when you do react.Key takeawaysAwareness is the first act of power: name the trigger before you act.Your partner is not responsible for fixing your inner story — you are.Ask for space without abandoning the conversation: explain you’ll step away to process and come back.Practice short regulating tools (walk, cold water, journal, breath) to calm your nervous system.Reconnect quickly with repair: apology, physical affection, and clarifying the real problem.Scripts you can use“I’m getting really overwhelmed right now. I need a few minutes to calm down so I don’t react. I’ll come back and talk.”“My anxious attachment is triggered — I’m going to pause and process this so I can be present with you.”After: “I’m sorry I got reactive. Here’s what I was feeling and what I learned about my reaction…”Who this episode is for Anyone who wants to stop the same fights from repeating, learn how to self-regulate, and show up as their most connected self in relationship.If you found this helpful, please subscribe, leave a review, and share with a friend who needs this reminder: you can learn to pause, not panic. Want the worksheet for PAUSE → REFLECT → REGULATE → RECONNECT → REPAIR? DM me or visit my link in the show notes.Links and Resources:Get my free Guide: Calming Your Anxious AttachmentLinktree to all things happening now: https://linktr.ee/takingbackherbrainLet’s Connect:Follow me on instagram: @anxiousattachmentsolutionFollow me on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution Life Coach AmberFollow me on substack: @takingbacherbraincoachingEmail me at [email protected] for a free one hour consultation

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