#286/ Motivation, Identity, Behaviour change & creating lasting habits - navigating expectations / Dalton Franke

08/09/2023 1h 1min

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links & studies:
Insufficient sleep undermines dietary efforts to reduce adiposity https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2951287/
https://selfdeterminationtheory.org/theory/

The stuff thats missed out - behaviour change… the mindset
The superglue to everything
It doesnt matter the results you get if you cant keep them

Skillsets
Intuitive actions & habits

People say fuck motivation - you need discipline

Starting when you arent ready

The time warp we have like when things are going crap in the moment we feel like its months and months of struggle
We also have time warp

ACT the acceptance being pivotal

Relatedness - community

unrealistic expectations, awareness & acceptance

You sent identity shifting, ambivalence

Motivation - behaviour change - strategies for goal setting and creating momentum
What holds people back from commitment


“Respect myself” but most people don't act in that way anyway
Its usually from self hate and wanting to move away from


Values - Ambivalence often arises when making important life decisions. How can someone work through ambivalence

What are some common sources of ambivalence when it comes to pursuing our goals, and how can we address them effectively?

What are some examples of change talk


Spectrum from amotivation to Intrinsic






WHY its important to them
Example of leanne saying she wanted to be confident in little clothes
She wants to feel good and be able to wear clothes without feeling like she cant pull it off or embarras herself



Its all makes sense but in the moment, we want results now, we don't care about this stuff - how do you reconcile that and break down that disconnect and unrealistic expectations or what the journey should look like


This is why i ask so many questions and i think my girls get so annoyed at how many qs i shoot back at them


How does self-acceptance play a role in achieving long-term behavior change and sustained motivation?
Can you discuss the role of self-compassion & emotional regulation for keeping people making progress and on their journey
For behavior change, especially when facing obstacles?

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Could you explain the concept of "identity shifting" and how it relates to making lasting changes in our lives?
BECAUSE
Many people struggle with breaking old habits. What are some effective approaches for overcoming resistance to change and adopting new behaviors?

How important is accountability in the process of behavior change?


AND THEN
AND WHAT, SO WHAT, BUT WHAT



What you were doing wasnt making you happy or getting you to where you want to be
it s normal to think trying harder
Working harder
Just trying that one more


Motivation can be fleeting. What strategies can individuals use to sustain their motivation over the long term, especially when working towards personal goals within a community?


Youll

Lets talk more about actually using that coaching group community, i have my inner circle and you have yours - how can this really help with sustaining change & taking people to their next level & actualizing their goals and even more than they imagined



How can setting unrealistic expectations impact our motivation and behavior change efforts?

Can you share practical strategies for overcoming


Small wins


What are some common pitfalls people encounter when trying to maintain motivation over the long term?

How can individuals adjust their strategies to stay motivated as circumstances and priorities change?

Are there specific habits or routines that can help anchor new behaviors and prevent relapses?




Perceived effort & expectation from that VS reality



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