Attachment Styles

11/11/2025 25 min Temporada 4 Episodio 3
Attachment Styles

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In this episode, Victoria explores attachment theory and DISC. From childhood caregiver bonds to professional relationships, Victoria unpacks how our early emotional experiences influence how we lead, connect, and collaborate.Listen in to learn the four main attachment styles - Anxious/Preoccupied, Avoidant/Dismissive, Fearful/Disorganized, and Secure - as well as the workplace applications, emotional regulation strategies, and “superpowers” for each. Victoria and Heather also share their own quiz results, laugh about their high-C tendencies, and reveal how self-awareness and emotional intelligence can help shift attachment patterns toward security.Victoria often says DISC is a great tool to have in your toolkit. So, what would DISC look like as tools you might find in a toolbox?High D - Hammer; maximum output, one hit could get the job doneHigh I  - Flashlight; bright, illuminating the wayHigh S - Wrench; slowly, steadily does what’s neededHigh C - Level; ensures accuracy and precisionEpisode Timestamps00:00 – Are you laughing?01:00 Today’s Mood Meter02:00 – DISC as tools in a toolbox03:00 – What is Attachment Theory? 04:00 – How early experiences shape adult relationships06:00 – The Four Attachment Styles explained and how to take the quiz at attachmentproject.com08:00 – Style 1: Anxious/Preoccupied13:00 – Style 2: Avoidant/Dismissive17:00 – Style 3: Fearful Avoidant/Disorganized19:00 – Style 4: Secure21:00 – Leadership through attachment22:00 – Can your attachment style change?23:00 – “It’s a sketch, not a portrait.” Using DISC and attachment insights to grow self-awareness24:00 – Closing thoughts and where to learn more about attachment stylesNotable Quotes “I think it’s important to clarify that attachment is a spectrum, and so you may not fit one completely.” “Our greatest challenges often reveal great strengths. Our attachment styles can also be our superpowers.”“It’s a sketch, not a portrait… we have all four DISC factors in us somewhere.”Resources MentionedTake the free attachment style quiz and explore detailed resources: https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/Mark Brackett’s How We Feel app and the Mood Meter framework: https://marcbrackett.com/how-we-feel-app-3/Key Takeaways:Attachment theory shapes how we connect, communicate, and lead based on early caregiver bonds.It’s a spectrum — your style may shift across personal and professional relationships.Each style has both triggers and strengths:●     Anxious: Seeks reassurance; strong collaborator.●     Avoidant: Values independence; focused achiever.●     Fearful: Cautious but highly responsive.●     Secure: Balanced, trusting, and empathetic.Self-awareness and emotional regulation help shift from reaction to response.Attachment styles can evolve through secure relationships, therapy, or emotional intelligence work.If you're interested in learning more about team building, coaching, strategic hiring, and onboarding, let's connect!📧...