Principal Software Engineer: Democracy at Work is Overrated

13/08/2025 1h 4min Episodio 212

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Dario Gieselaar, Principal Software Engineer from Elastic gets brutally honest about what it really takes to succeed in a top tech company. We uncover the uncomfortable truths about the promotion game, why direct feedback is crucial (even when it hurts), and why a "winning" mindset is everything. This is the conversation about career growth they don't have in HR meetings.In this episode, we cover:Navigating promotion cycles and advocating for yourselfGiving and receiving critical feedback without being seen as "negative"The importance of accountability and managing low-performing colleaguesWhy a top-down approach can be more effective than team democracyHow to "disagree and commit" to keep projects moving forwardThis video is for any software engineer who wants to level up their career, navigate corporate dynamics, and become a high-impact performer in a competitive environment.Full episode on YouTube ▶️https://youtu.be/1q7Jjbi5GJ4Beyond Coding Podcast with ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠🎙Patrick Akil⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Powered by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Xebia⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!Timestamps:00:00:00 - Career Progression for Software Engineers in Big Tech00:00:28 - The Pain and Frustration of a Missed Promotion00:03:44 - The "Classic Game" of Asking Your Manager for a Promotion00:05:38 - When Salary Becomes a Trigger for Your Motivation00:08:09 - Why Recognition is More Important Than Money00:11:09 - The Challenge of Giving Positive vs. Critical Feedback00:13:26 - Is Your Critical Feedback Being Labeled as "Negative"?00:15:36 - When Being Indirect Wastes Everyone's Time00:17:44 - Why Direct Disagreement Leads to Better Decisions00:20:16 - The Surprising Impact of Meeting Colleagues In-Person00:22:43 - How Reorgs Destroy High-Performing Teams00:25:59 - Why the World's Biggest Codebase is Embarrassing00:27:58 - Should You Let Your Team Make Their Own Mistakes?00:30:47 - The Unique Challenge of Building Enterprise Software00:34:16 - A Hard Lesson: When Your Directness Hurts a Colleague00:38:45 - The Uncomfortable Truth About Managing Low Performers00:43:21 - Why High Performers Leave Teams That Tolerate Coasting00:47:05 - A Contrarian Take: Is Workplace Democracy Overrated?00:50:54 - How to "Disagree and Commit" Without Wasting Time00:55:52 - The #1 Instinct to Control When Receiving Feedback01:01:43 - Mindset Shift: Treating Software Engineering Like a Competitive Sport