Wondering if your relationship should involve more sex or comparing yourself to what you think is normal? You're not alone. Many couples quietly struggle with mismatched desire, emotional disconnection or unclear expectations about what intimacy should look like.In this episode, I talk about what it really means to not be having enough sex, how responsive desire plays a role in long-term relationships, and why connection doesn’t always come from frequency.This one is honest, awkward in all the right ways and full of practical ways to start talking about sex in a way that brings you closer, not further apart.Key takeaways:Why mismatched desire is more common than you thinkWhat the difference is between spontaneous and responsive desireHow shame, stress, and resentment affect libidoWhy “not enough sex” often isn't about sex at allHow to talk about desire and initiate without pressureThe myth of “normal” frequency in relationshipsThe dual control model: brakes, accelerators, and contextWhat couples can learn from Emily Nagoski’s work?If this episode sounds like something you or your partner need to hear, share it with them. Sex is just one way we connect but the conversation around it can be the most meaningful part.Resources:Emily Nagoski – Come As You AreConnected Teens https://marievakakis.com.au/connected-teens/Connect with Marie https://thetherapyhub.com.au/ https://marievakakis.com.au/ https://www.instagram.com/marievakakis/Submit a question to the Podcasthttps://forms.gle/nvNQyw9gJXMNnveY6

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