Listen "Pacing and Leading"
Episode Synopsis
Pacing and Leading is a concept within Neuro Linguistic Programming, or NLP, which is applied linguistics and psychology to alter or set patterns of human behaviour. Pacing and Leading is a great way to gain rapport and trust with students and allows you to take an unmotivated, stressed out student and move them to a more positive position. Neil tells you how.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Pacing is where you move yourself into the same state that the student is in. Connect with them as they currently are to gain rapport. You may need to observe closely adopting posture, breathing, movement and language.
When you are matched you can then move yourself into a more positive state. If you make small subtle changes and see if they follow, you can influence them into a more positive position.
This method allows not only learning but can give the normally challenged student a positive experience that they will want to repeat.
BEST MOMENTS
‘You can think of it as falling into step alongside someone, a friend perhaps, while you’re walking down the road. It just makes everything easier if you’re walking in step.’
‘When I’ve got a depressed or a sad student I’ll move into their world and then bring them back into mine so they are uplifted and empowered and capable of learning.’
‘As with any skill, use this for the benefit of your students and your clients’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Tutor Podcast
www.Neilcowmeadow.com
ABOUT THE HOST
Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years’ experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil’s invaluable advice and tips without the buzzwords and BS!
CONTACT METHOD
[email protected]
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Pacing is where you move yourself into the same state that the student is in. Connect with them as they currently are to gain rapport. You may need to observe closely adopting posture, breathing, movement and language.
When you are matched you can then move yourself into a more positive state. If you make small subtle changes and see if they follow, you can influence them into a more positive position.
This method allows not only learning but can give the normally challenged student a positive experience that they will want to repeat.
BEST MOMENTS
‘You can think of it as falling into step alongside someone, a friend perhaps, while you’re walking down the road. It just makes everything easier if you’re walking in step.’
‘When I’ve got a depressed or a sad student I’ll move into their world and then bring them back into mine so they are uplifted and empowered and capable of learning.’
‘As with any skill, use this for the benefit of your students and your clients’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
The Tutor Podcast
www.Neilcowmeadow.com
ABOUT THE HOST
Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years’ experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil’s invaluable advice and tips without the buzzwords and BS!
CONTACT METHOD
[email protected]
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