Welcome back to another episode of our podcast! I can't believe we're already on episode 13. I'm thrilled to have both new and returning listeners joining us today. Thank you for your continued support!

Today, I want to delve into a topic that resonates with many of us: handling triggers and practicing self-compassion.

During a discussion, my client expressed frustration over feeling stuck at a particular point in her progress. She asked, “How am I supposed to remember to ask myself all these questions because I get triggered A LOT every single day?” This is a common concern, and it leads us to the heart of today's topic.

Let me set the stage with a personal story. One Saturday, my daughter and I were heading to our local farmer’s market. It was busier than usual, and we were struggling to find a parking spot. I spotted someone leaving and positioned myself to take their spot, but another car, just entering the lot, also claimed it. Normally, I would have let it go, but this time, I lost my cool. I opened my window and yelled, “You are what's wrong with humanity!” My daughter’s comment, “I think you were both kinda rude,” made me reflect deeply on my actions. 

Here’s what my reflection helped me understand: 

Limited Resources Amplify Triggers When basic needs (like food, shelter, money, and yes, even, parking spots) are scarce, it often brings out the worst in us. The same applies to internal resources like energy and patience.

The Need to Be Right My reaction stemmed from a strong sense of justice and the need to be right. This is a common trigger that can lead to overreactions.

Teaching Moments Despite the embarrassing situation, I turned it into a teaching moment for my kids about courtesy, self-reflection, and the importance of moving on gracefully.

Jonathan and I highlight a few ways to understand what’s happening and what you can do if you’ve gotten angry or upset. 


Recognize and Understand Triggers It's crucial to identify who or what your triggers remind you of.


The Power of Self-Compassion Practicing self-compassion involves recognizing your triggers, understanding your responses, and forgiving yourself when you react strongly.


Repairing Relationships and Moving Forward When you lose your cool, it’s vital to unpack the situation and find the lessons within it.

Losing our cool occasionally is part of being human. What's important is how we handle these situations afterward. By reflecting on our triggers, practicing self-compassion, and taking steps to repair any harm caused, we can grow stronger and more resilient. Remember, the goal is not to be perfect but to handle our imperfections with grace and kindness.

Thank you for joining me today. Until next time, keep practicing self-compassion and stay curious about your behaviors. Let's navigate our triggers together and continue striving for personal growth and understanding.
 
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Resources:
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