On today’s episode, Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz talk with Dr. John Van Epp who brings to light some of the most important things we can do when selecting a life partner as well as how to strengthen those relationships over time. We learn some of the predictors of how long-term relationships will turn out as well as some principles to help navigate both red and green flags within our relationships.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who is John Van Epp?2:42 – Life-partner selection process11:58 – Predictors of getting to “know” and getting to “no”13:33 – Media love vs True love16:10 – Let heart and head work together20:00 – Discerning our partner is a process26:16 – 5 ways to notice green flags and red flags31:30 – With definition comes implementation34:02 – Attraction alone is not enough35:04 – Key areas to address stressors and struggles in dating40:43 – Being equally yoked strengthens connection42:32 – Have a game plan for managing your relationship44:26 – John’s relationship resources47:10 – John’s takeaway: heart and head are meant to work together48:38 – Liz’s takeaway: Partner selection process is key49:04 – Dave’s takeaway: Trust and commitment grow over time, RAM is a great resourceAbout John Van Epp:John Van Epp, PhD, President and Founder of Love Thinks, LLC is the author of How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk (or Jerkette) - top choice for singles by Christianity Today; Becoming Better Together: the RAM plan for growing together when life is pulling you apart; and Endgame: The Church’s Strategic Move to Save Faithand Family in America.He has previous experience as   -    a founding church pastor   -    an adjunct seminary professor in marriage and family with extensive research inpremarital, marital, and family relations   -    a clinical counselor for 25 years in his private counseling practice   -    and for over 20 years, he has trained military personnel and contracted with the military as a subject matter expert (SME) in relationship health, psychology, religion, suicide, and resilience.For the past 25 years, he has developed relationship programs that have been taught by over 35,000 certified instructors to over one million participants.He was awarded the Smart Marriage and the NARME Impact Awards, and has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Time Magazine, Psychology Today, O Magazine; he has appeared on the CBS Early Show, Good Morning America, Fox News, and Focus on the Family.Insights:John: With definition comes implementation. Your heart and your head are meant to work together in making decisions.Dave: Trust and commitment grow over time.Liz: There is very little you can do to compensate after marriage fVisit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/

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