TRANSCRIPT FOR EP52:Welcome to SHE is Confident. Hi! This is Deon Teh and in this episode, I will be sharing with you about HUSBAND & WIFEAs we know that each family has its own issues to resolve and reality to face. A typical family is formed by a man and a woman that who fall in love and both came from different growing background and different beliefs, especially in this modern society, when everyone is talking about having freedom even after marriage. When there is no communication both ways, the husband & wife relationship will start to crack in between and if there is no effort to put on, most of the couple will choose the decision to end the relationshipWe are just like a puzzle that lacks one piece, therefore we are searching for that piece to fulfill our completion and this has led to many of us being hurt when we are unable to fulfill each other.This will cause contradiction in between husband & wife relationships and it becomes more complicated when there are children involved, We may have many unmet matters that happened behind our original family and it remains inside in our body memories, unknowingly to us. And whenever either husband or wife behaves or does something that recalls the matter and brings up the unmet expectation and if not self-awareness might cause unhappiness.In my previous episode, As I mentioned about my complaining habit made my husband unhappy especially after married, however I managed to deal with it with a positive attitude, In 2007, we had our 1st child and we did have a lot of disagreement on nurturing our son, as I am more Kiasu; the fear of losing out the type of mother, while he is calmer and a more relaxed type of parent however we have found a way between us so that each of us can find our balance.I remembered that I have a discomfort emotion whenever people ignore me, unfortunately, my husband has this behavior too. My husband is a quiet person and whenever he has a disagreement with me, he usually keeps to himself and does not communicate with me. Unless I take the first step to talk to him, he will ignore me. I will be upset while he seems to be ok.  For many years, I keep repeating this discomfort feeling again and again. In the end, I found that because I am more emotional, it causes me to have such feelings and this feeling eased after I found my inner peace and my inner security increased.So, for now, I focus on what he has but not what he doesn't have, after all, humans are imperfect, and because of that, we have compassion for each other especially our loved one.I was doing self-awareness as well as self-healing using the singing bowl, this has helped to unblock the past experiences that I wasn’t aware of, and I read further on articles that related to this area and understand that the relationship with your partner is a long term project.Life after marriage is to learn how to face our challenges, and how do we understand each other. By turning all the worries into blessings, we support and give space to each other as we trust each other.I learned to let go of my stubbornness,  if not I will be unable to more understand others, therefore I learned not to judge by correct or wrong as everyone has and depending on what kind of situation.We will either attract a partner who is either behaving the same way as our parents or totally different from our parents. This is because what you focus on becomes your reality.I remember that during my pregnancy, I will meet many pregnant women, no matter in shopping or anywhere as that is what I focus on. When you keep focusing on what your partner lacks, you will find him more uncomfortable and dislike him.What characteristic your partner has is usually formed during in his original family, to have a clearer understanding of the character of your partner, you might want to explore my previous episode on Enneagram. But you can group them according to 3 wisdom centres. No.5,6,7 is about the head means he or she is analytical, No.2,3,4 is about the heart means he or she is emotional, and No.8,9,1 is about the gut feel means he or she is intuitive / has a sixth sense.I have some simple tips for you:If your partner is the analytical type, you can let them become your house financial controller, if they are emotional type, you can inform them where you are first whenever you go and if they are the intuitive type you let them have more personal space.ConclusionsIt is important that we put out efforts to know our partner as well as ourselves so that we can learn what we don’t have and know what is our partner's merit, this can help each of us improve our relationship to be a better couple.Usually when husband & wife relationships turn sour, at the same time the money issues will appear. When you lack inner security and try to control the behaviour of your partner, that is the time to change yourself and not ask your partner to change or suit you.---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------If you want to talk about transforming your inner child, healing your relationships with yourself and money, connect with me through my Facebook and the link is in the show notes.EndI look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you about BODY & MIND & SOUL.https://www.facebook.com/leeyongtehhttps://www.instagram.com/d_t_l_y/https://www.linkedin.com/in/deon-teh-leeyong-573a0766/

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