Listen "S1E22 - Leading Your Siblings to Christ"
Episode Synopsis
In this episode, Joseph and Anu respond to Simi's question. She asks:
"I need help. My siblings and I are always at loggerhead. In fact, my immediate brother has left the house to stay with someone else currently. The issue is they believe that I'm too 'Spiri koko' (i.e. hyper-spiritual) and wouldn't let them have their way in doing certain things they feel is normal. Just this evening, there was a quarrel because I asked my second brother not to listen to a particular song because of the dirty lyrics, but he insisted. These acts leave me feeling bad—like I'm a mean and troublesome person. Sometimes I find it very difficult to pray. What can I do? 😥"
Joseph and Anu shared some thoughts in response to this.
SOME KEY POINTS
✥ Condemnation, Judgment and Seniority are bad evangelism tools.
✥ "Preach the gospel at all time. If necessary, use words." (Quote attributed to St Francis of Assisi.)
✥ The same way God brings out the best in us through the gift of "no condemnation" is how we will lead our relatives to the better version of themselves.
✥ In correcting anyone, especially your relatives, practise "Sandwich Criticism" — you begin by appreciating something about them, you then slide in your correction in love, and you conclude with appreciating them (or something in them) again.
MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE
Triggers: Exchanging Parents' Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses by Amber Lia and Wendy Speake
"I need help. My siblings and I are always at loggerhead. In fact, my immediate brother has left the house to stay with someone else currently. The issue is they believe that I'm too 'Spiri koko' (i.e. hyper-spiritual) and wouldn't let them have their way in doing certain things they feel is normal. Just this evening, there was a quarrel because I asked my second brother not to listen to a particular song because of the dirty lyrics, but he insisted. These acts leave me feeling bad—like I'm a mean and troublesome person. Sometimes I find it very difficult to pray. What can I do? 😥"
Joseph and Anu shared some thoughts in response to this.
SOME KEY POINTS
✥ Condemnation, Judgment and Seniority are bad evangelism tools.
✥ "Preach the gospel at all time. If necessary, use words." (Quote attributed to St Francis of Assisi.)
✥ The same way God brings out the best in us through the gift of "no condemnation" is how we will lead our relatives to the better version of themselves.
✥ In correcting anyone, especially your relatives, practise "Sandwich Criticism" — you begin by appreciating something about them, you then slide in your correction in love, and you conclude with appreciating them (or something in them) again.
MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE
Triggers: Exchanging Parents' Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses by Amber Lia and Wendy Speake
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