What to Do When You Love Your Partner But Don’t Feel Turned On

15/09/2025 6 min Temporada 1 Episodio 320
What to Do When You Love Your Partner But Don’t Feel Turned On

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Episode Synopsis

Like it or not, attraction can dim even in the brightest, most loving relationships. Maybe you're loyal. Maybe you care deeply. Maybe you've built a life together. But that spark? It flickers. And when it does, you're left with questions, guilt, maybe even shame. It’s heavy, confusing, and painfully human.

In this Language of Love Bite, I break the silence around why you may not feel attracted to your partner anymore and guide you back to the root of your own erotic energy. Because when desire fades, it’s not a sign of failure… It’s a call to deeper awareness and reconnection.

We explore the four core reasons attraction fades and why this doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. And I also  guide you through a gentle, powerful embodiment practice called the Pleasure Mirror Practice, a ritual designed to help you reconnect with your own sensuality, aliveness, and desire, from the inside out.

Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode:



Why attraction naturally ebbs and flows in long-term love




What unspoken resentment does to desire




How safety and routine can dull erotic energy




What happens when you disconnect from your own sensuality




How nervous system trauma or stress can suppress arousal




How to do the Pleasure Mirror Practice to reignite your erotic energy




If you want support with intimacy, sexual connection, or rediscovering your own sensual fire, check out my free Quantum Sex course on my website, and my book Sex Magic. Because true attraction isn’t something you lose, it’s something you learn to consciously recreate.
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