Life Coach Tamara Lichfield joins Courtney and Carley to teach the difference between sympathy and empathy, the symptoms of codependency and the format for setting boundaries. This episode is Part 2 of 3 within thse Connection Prep mini-series, airing April 2023.    Referenced Quotes: “I think so often, what people misunderstand about boundaries is that the point of setting them is not to change other peoples behavior or convince them to value different things – it’s to advocate for yourself, regardless of how they respond.” Daniell Koepke   "Agency is our superpower!" Tamara Lichfield   Referenced Resources: The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman Connect with Tamara  • http://www.becomingshatterproof.us • https://www.facebook.com/becomingshatterproof/   Connect with Courtney and Carley • https://heysisterpodcast.org • https://www.instagram.com/theheysisterpodcast/ • https://www.facebook.com/heysisterpodcast   Show Timeline:    0:00 Guest and topic introduction; recap of Part 1   3:45 Sympathy vs. empathy   15:00 Codependency, areas and symptoms of codependency: 1) self-sacrifice, 2) tendency to focus on others’ needs, 3) a need for control, 4) difficulty recognizing and expressing emotion   22:00 Avoiding enmeshment and codependency by cultivating self-esteem and quality self-care   27:30 Boundaries: step 1—Define values (examples of values: family, success, faith and spirituality, honesty, affection, friendship, compassion, finances, appreciation, integrity)   33:00 Boundaries: step 2—Questions to consider when setting boundaries: 1) Do I have control to create the outcome I want? 2) Do I have control to create the outcome I want with some help? 3) Do I need to make a request to create the outcome I want? 4) Do I have zero control over the outcome?   38:15 Format for setting boundaries and examples: “If X occurs, then I will do Y”   43:00 Concluding thoughts and outtakes  

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